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I believe in the kind of love that doesn’t demand me to prove my worth.


I believe in the kind of love that doesn’t demand me to prove my worth and sit in anxiety. I crave a natural connection, where my soul is able to recognize a feeling of home in another. Something free-flowing, something simple. Something that allows me to be me without question. – Joey Palermo

Dealing with disappointment in life


Life is full of disappointment. Some people can’t get the job that they long for. A women broke up with her boyfriend who recently proposes her. Another person loses their job. A lady who lost her baby. Many people face the disappointment. Life is full of disappointment but how we respond to disappointment can make all the difference.

Expect your disappointment as a part of life. Although we would like to avoid disappointment it is impossible. If you expect disappointment in your life. You will not surprise when it comes and you will be able to face it with the right attitude.

When was the last time you faced disappointment from a certain outcome that did not meet your expectations?

It could be any event in your life, from a big setback to a small mishap. Perhaps your meeting at work did not go as well as you anticipated. Your new job was not what you expected. Maybe your salary never come and your boss so ignorant like nothing wrong is happening.

Maybe someone you like did not reciprocate your feelings. Maybe your relationship did not work out the way you hope it would.

How did it feel? Did you feel a certain sense of numbness and void inside of you? Were you hopeless and miserable? Did it feel like it was the end of the world?

Disappointments are dissatisfaction that arises when your expectations are not met by outcomes. In short, you had an expectation but things did not unfold against the expectation.

Every day, people deal with disappointments. Depending on how big the disappointment is and how you choose to deal with it, the feeling of disappointment may dissipate after a short while or hang over your life for an extended period. If not handled properly, disappointments can lead to depression and eventually apathy.

Contrary to what people may think, disappointment is actually positive experience for our life.

If you don’t care about something, you wouldn’t be feeling disappointed, would you? The very presence of disappointment comes when something you care about so much does not turn the way we expect it. The higher your disappointment, the stronger your passion for this is.

As Martin Luther King Jr puts it very adeptly, “There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love.” This deep love is what drives you towards your goals, dreams and desires. This deep love will be what fuels you in life, bringing you to places you have never been before. This deep loveis what makes life worth living. Remember that disappointment is always a better emotional state than apathy or neutrality where the person feels indifferent towards anything. I would much rather be feeling a negative emotion any day than feeling absolutely nothing. The ability to feel is what sets us apart from non-living beings. To feel nothing is like a robot or a machine.

Disappointment also signals an opportunity for progress and growth. If you disappointed in an outcome, it means there is actually a certain error in your framework of thought which needs to resolve.

Whenever you disappointed, it means you have certain expectation about reality which you need to deal with. On the other side, if your perceptions of reality are always right, you will never feel disappointed at all. By correcting your expectation and getting a more accurate picture of the reality, you equipped with more knowledge. This knowledge is a source of power; power for you to act towards your goals.

By using the knowledge from your previous experience, you can act more accurately towards your desires. The more you deal with disappointment and learn from it, the closer you will get towards your goals and dreams.

People deal with their disappointment in many ways. Some are negative and destructive ways and other people deal with a positive attitude. The way you react to disappointment can build you or can destruct you. What will be your choice?

1.No matter how careful or positive we are, we are bound to experience grief, suffering, pain, fear, and anxiety, for they are part of life, the price we pay for the privilege of sharing in the joys of life.Since you can count on suffering, make sure you can count on joy. Get-together with friends, and time to enjoy your hobbies, nature, and the arts. By spending time for fun, with the people you care and care about you will guarantee that any grief you experience will intersperse with joy.

2. Don’t be guilty of reverse vision. That is, don’t look inward when you should look outward, and don’t look outward when you should look inward. Here’s what I mean. Are you disappointed in someone who doesn't live up to your expectations? If you are, you are guilty of reverse vision. You are looking outward (at your friends’ conduct) when you should look inward (at your own conduct). How can you be disappointed by the failure of your friends or relatives to live up to your expectations when you yourself fail to live up to your own expectations? When you see your own weaknesses, you’ll be able to accept the weaknesses of others. Are you sometimes devastated by misfortune and wonder how life so cruel? If so, you are guilty of reverse vision. You are looking inward when you should look outward. How can you beat your chest and cry out, “Woe is me,” when so many people are suffering to a much greater degree? When you begin to cry out, “”Woe is them,” you’ll start to thank for your blessings.

3. When you learn to welcome challenges and love problem solving, disappointments will disappear.Enjoy the thrill of being a champion by relishing battles, whether you win or lose them. Whenever things go wrong, analyze the situation and see what you can learn and then move on. If you are constantly running into hurdles when pursuing a long-term goal, just remember there is no failure until you give up, so don’t! Don’t you love puzzles? Life is a maze (it is also amazing). Enjoy it! When you run into a dead-end, just turn around and try again! Be an explorer, an adventurer. Take risks. Shoot for the stars! To do so is to experience an excitement that far exceeds the power of any disappointment that may come your way.

4. You will not enjoy or win at cards if all you do is complain about the hand you’re dealt. Expect nothing more from life than what it offers and you will never be let down. Welcome the opportunities it provides by making the most of the cards you’re dealt. Also, don’t forget to feed your mind with positive thoughts by reading good books. Then make those thoughts your own by reflecting on them. When you understand them, you will fill your mind with light. Apply what you learn by practicing it.

5. If you experience a disappointment that you find difficult to overcome without help, talk to friends.That will help you realize that you’re not alone and that others have overcome similar problems. And speaking of friends, don’t disappoint them and chances are they’ll never disappoint you, but if they do, forgive them, for how can someone hurt you if you forgive them? If you appeal to the best side of your friends, the chances are you won’t disappoint

6. Abandon perfect expectations. Are you looking for the perfect mate? If you are, you’re sure to disappoint. For only God is perfect. We human being are imperfect. If you can accept that, you can cut much unnecessary misery from your life. The same is true for the perfect job, perfect child, or perfect life. It doesn’t exist.

7. Finally, cultivate patience, for as Joseph Addison (1672 ~ 1719) wrote, “Our real blessings often seem to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures.”

“ We rejoice in the hope of the glory of God, not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance produces character, character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us because God has poured out his love in our hearts.”

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Find balance in your life.


Find balance in your life. Work hard but don’t let work take over your life, you will lose yourself. Love, but love for the right reasons. Life is too short for anything mediocre. Know who you are and know that you are worthy of reaching your dreams and that it is never too late to start creating that life you have always dreamed of. Do not compare yourself to others, that’s just deadly. No two souls are the same. You are your own person, you are beautiful and you are unique. Put your trust in the universe. Some things are just meant to happen, and some are not. Let go of whatever is stealing your happiness, it’s hard but it is worth it. Embrace change. Embrace life. Everything happens for a reason, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust and let go. ~Charlotte Freeman

I’ve learned a lot.


I’ve been walked on, used and forgotten and I don’t regret one moment of it because in those moments, I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned who I can trust and can’t. I’ve learned the meaning of friendship. I’ve learned how to tell when people are lying and when they’re sincere. I’ve learned how to be tough when necessary, and how to grow up when I need to. I’ve been to hell and back a few times, and I won’t ever take what I have for granted. This is life, live it one day at a time. You never know how many days you’ve got left.

I'm Letting You Go


Out of all the people I fell in love with, you were the one who I pictured a life with. Not any life, but the life I’ve always wanted. You were the one that I felt something with I have never felt before. You were the one whose with, it made sense. You were the one of my dreams. You were a wish that came true too soon. A dream that turned to a nightmare, a disappointment, a heartache.

Please believe me when I say that I forgive you. I don’t hate you but I most definitely hate the way you let me go. And I’ll never understand how easily you did it. I’ll never understand how flawlessly you forgot about me. But, I forgive you because I really loved you. I forgive you because I don’t want to give you power over the person I am and the future I could possibly have. I forgive you because I don’t need you to tell me what the truth is. I forgive you because that’s just who I am.

This is me letting you go for good. I’m accepting the fact that you belong with someone else. That someday, you’ll be waking-up next to someone who isn’t me. And that someday you’ll be someone’s everything. I’m letting go of hope that you’ll contact me. So, I’m blocking you everywhere. I’m letting go of fantasizing that you’ll tell me you’re sorry about everything just one last time. That you’ll tell me how much you missed me, but most importantly, that you’ll show it. I’m letting go of my desire that you’ll let me in, not half-way, not sort of but completely. I’m letting go of me thinking that you’ll come back because it’s always been me. I’m letting you go. And it’s not because I don’t love you still.

I’m letting you go because I want to be happy. I know that without you, I am not happy. But, I also know that with you I am not happy either. So I need to find my medium place where I am happy regardless. A place without memories of you in it, a place without a picture of you in it as well. I need to start over.

I’m letting you go because you gave-up. You gave-up on me, you gave-up on us, you gave-up on love. And so I get it when you said you had nothing to fight for. I’m letting you go because loving you has no meaning if it only stinks, if it only pains me. Because I can’t tell what’s real anymore. And because it’s my last resort. I’m letting you go because slowly but surely you too, let me go.

Farah Ayaad
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Live for yourself and be happy on your own.


There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, sit in a coffee shop on your own, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise. ~Emery Allen

Don't Let Your Possessions Possess You.


Don't let your possessions possess you. People work too hard to enjoy the fruits of their labour..spending too much time at work trying to maintain something they don't have time to enjoy and the others are trapped into enjoying things they don't like because they spent so much money on it. ~ DJ Cassa


Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. ~David Frost


Do the best you can, and don't take life too serious. ~Will Rogers

Have you ever woke up in the morning dreading the whole day ahead? Are you miserable because of your 9-5 work day/ heavy classroom schedule and don’t know what you want to be in life?
If these thoughts cross your mind nearly every day then it is a clear indication to stop and reflect about your life for a moment and find your passion. What is it that you like? What would you do if you had nothing to lose and everything to gain? What is it that you love to do in the first place and wouldn’t let anything else come in your way?

What would you do it if earning money was not a problem anymore or was insignificant to what you can hypothetically achieve? What would you like to become? What is it that you would like to do more than anything else in the world?

What will make you happier and satisfied with your life no matter how hard you have to work on it or how long you could have kept working on it if you had the time? These are tough questions to ask especially if you have been stuck in a time shift like a nondescript job and you have forgotten who you are.

So, if what you like to do differs from what you are currently embroiled in, try to make a plan to pursue it even if you have to leave what you are doing before or at least put it on hold for the time being. Once again don’t think too much about money. The money will find its way one way or another if you are good at what you do. Pursue your dream with all of your heart and go nuts over it. It can be anything in the world.

Don’t let conventions, social limitations, mental barriers, pressure from other people and ridicule stop you from doing what you want to do. Rise above mediocrity and let loose your true passion that has been bottled up inside you. You will succeed!

So This is Love


Last night I looked at you, and I could feel it. I could feel the love that filled my entire body. The kind that made my toes curl and the kind of love that circulated through my veins. I could feel myself blush from having all types of emotions running rampant against my skin. The kind of love that made me want to scream all my worries and fears out so they have no way of finding their way back in. The kinda that took my breath away just by the mention of our love being spoken in your tone. A soft voice that whispered kindness and sweet promises. Last night I look at you and thought, "Ahh, so this is how love is supposed to feel.

That heavy feeling in your chest



There it goes again. That heavy feeling in your chest when you don’t feel any desire to speak or move. All you want to do is close your eyes and sleep, because the process of being broken is incredibly exhausting. You attempt your best to make your days fulfilling, but no matter how hard you try you can’t seem to connect to anyone or anything.

10 Quotes To Get Motivated When You're Feel Lost in Life



When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. ~Harriet Beecher Stowe


Once you choose hope, anything's possible. ~Christopher Reeve


If you're going through hell, keep going. ~Sir Winston Churchill


There is neither good or bad, but thinking makes it so. ~William Shakespeare


When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. ~Franklin D Roosevelt


I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge - myth is more potent than history - dreams are more powerful than facts - hope always triumphs over experience - laughter is the cure for grief - love is stronger than death. ~Robert Fulghum


Sanity may be madness but the maddest of all is to see life as it is and not as it should be.~Don Quixote


Experience is not what happens to a man, it's what he does with what happens to him. ~Aldous Huxley



All the great spiritual leaders in history were people of hope. Abraham, Moses, Ruth, Mary, Jesus, Rumi, Gandhi, and Dorothy Day all lived with a promise in their hearts that guided them toward the future without the need to know exactly what it would look like. Let's live with hope. ~Henri Nouwen


Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ~Thomas Edison

What To Do When You Feeling Lost In Life?

Have you ever felt like having no goal in your life and you just want to end your life? That's a big no to end your life just because you have no idea what you are doing in this world. You may have lost your motivation because the burden in your life might be too heavy and you just can’t stop thinking to overcome all of the problems in your life. What you just need to do when you feel it is just to find the inspiration and get your motivation back in your hand and feel it to boost your mood. There was a time when you have to sit down and stare at nothing and feel that you are not that energetic as then you first time work in the office you are getting involved now. There was a time when you feel so excited to go to work and you were so passionate doing your work like anything you were doing is exciting. Get your sense back and get into the business you should have gone further with better achievements. You need to get back your motivation. How to get it? Here are the simple ways to get the motivation back to your life.

Recall your dreams

Once you have lost your motivation, you feel blank and have no idea what you are doing now, you will get lost. All of the things you are doing have no relation to your dreams. You feel tired and you feel that you don’t have to work like it. There was a story about Steve Jobs. Back then, he had no idea and got dropped out. He didn’t know what to do with his life and then he took the calligraphy class. Then he didn’t think that it has relation to life. You are now dealing with the disconnection between you in the current and you in the future like what you are dreaming. Then, Steve Jobs did the new thing in an operating system where he made Macintosh with the typography similar to the system of how calligraphy works. Just recall your dreams and make them connected to what you are now.

Create your own environment

Another reason why you get lost and you have no motivation when you are working is that you find that the environment is not as supportive as you first time came and worked. To make it comfortable does not depend on the situation, but how you make it. You could create your own environment and make it comfortable. “Okay, this seems hard, but overcoming it might be easy if I feel comfortable”. Yep, being comfortable is the key. You have to create it. It just depends on how you see things and not things that will see you.

Relax

Don’t work too hard and relax. Your body and mind deserve a better refreshing. You can take a short break to regain your mood. Never try to keep pushing your body and mind into the hard situation and due dates. Put aside for a while and do the tips above. Recall your dream and start to use a different point of view when you find stressor in your work.

Marry your best friend


Marry your best friend. Marry someone who you wouldn’t mind waking up to every day for the rest of your life. The one who makes you glad to be alive. Marry someone who drives you crazy. The one who frustrates you. The one who calms you. Marry the one you don’t mind fighting with, because they will be fair about it. Don’t marry someone who gives their ego more importance, than they give you. Marry someone who makes you the best version of yourself. The one who believes in you, even when you don’t. The one who stands by you, through thick and thin. Marry someone you can’t imagine your life without. Marry the one you are insanely in love with. And the one who is insanely in love with you. Marry the one who knows what you want to say, when you’re too tired to say it with words. The one you can spend comfortable silences with from time to time. Marry your soul mate. Marry your best friend.

Fall in love with someone who would never ever want to hurt you.


Fall in love with someone who loves the way you laugh and would do absolutely anything to hear it. Fall in love with someone who puts their head on your chest just to hear your heart beat. Fall in love with someone who kisses you in public and is proud to show you off to anyone they know. Fall in love with someone who would never ever want to hurt you. Fall in love with someone who falls in love with your flaws and thinks you are perfect just the way you are. Fall in love with someone who thinks that you are the one they would love to wake up to each day.